In a thought-provoking article, Patience Akumu, an African feminist, shares her experience of planning a white wedding with her partner Mark. After 20 years together and two children, they decided to have a customary marriage with their village sub-county two years ago. However, they recently held a second ceremony, which they called a celebration of love, rather than a traditional wedding. Akumu wanted to assert her independence and challenge traditional norms by taking control of the wedding planning process. She designed the invitations herself, featuring a playful gif of the song Love Potion by Mafikizolo, to emphasize that this was a wedding on their own terms. However, not everyone was pleased with her decision. Her cousin Moses questioned whether the patriarchy had won, suggesting that Akumu's choice of a white wedding was a compromise with traditional values. Akumu's experience highlights the complexities of navigating cultural identity and tradition as an African feminist. She wanted to be a beacon of black feminist love, but her decision to have a white wedding has sparked debate and introspection. Ultimately, Akumu's story serves as a reminder that feminism is not a one-size-fits-all approach and that individuals must navigate their own paths to self-expression and empowerment.